7 Reasons SAHMs Need Girl Time

If you are a stay-at-home-mom, here is my best advice for you: Get out of the house. As soon as possible. Call your bestie, pump some bottles for those babies, and go. Seriously, you need some girl time. Here are the seven reasons why:

7. Your house smells bad (poopy diapers). You smell bad (spit-up). Fresh air smells good. Your bestie smells good. Your nose deserves to smell good things now and then.

6. Girl time is calm. Your girlfriends might not let you pee alone or eat a meal without sharing, but they also won’t pull your hair or scream in your ear or say “Mommy! Mommy! Mommy!” incessantly. Calm feels good, remember?

5. Your bestie misses you. She adores your children. She’s so proud of the mom you’ve become. But she also just wants to hang out with you sometimes. You can give her some of your time, can’t you?  

4. You need to learn the meaning of the word trust. You can trust your spouse to watch your babies. You can trust your mom to watch your babies. You can trust in the resilience of your children. They will survive without you. But you won’t know that for sure until you test it.

3. It’s way too easy to isolate yourself. Making plans is difficult. Your life is chaos. It’s a lot easier to succumb to the chaos and the isolation than it is to make plans and stick to them. But the easy thing is not always the healthy thing!

2. You are more than your relationships. Yes, you are a wife and a mother. Yes, those are wonderful titles to claim. They are beautiful, integral parts of your identity. But you are also more than that. Your bestie knows what I’m talking about. She can help remind you.

1. Motherhood can be incredibly lonely. You’re at home all day every day with no adults to talk to. Maybe facebook is helpful. Usually it is not. Maybe you’ll get to talk to your spouse when he/she gets home. Probably you’ll be interrupted by your toddler a hundred times. Don’t let motherhood be lonely. Reconnect with your female friends and be reminded of the sisterhood that you are a part of.  

Stay-at-home-moms, I know it's not easy to make plans with your girlfriends. I know you're uneasy when you leave your babies, and you can't even find time to shower. But I hope I've convinced you of the importance of girl time. Drink wine or carve pumpkins or get sunburned. It doesn’t matter what you’re doing. It matters who you’re doing it with.